Happy St. Patrick's Day! Did I mention we throw a St. Patrick's Day party? I DID? Once or twice?
Well, this year's Hooley was last weekend, and it was our biggest. party. evah. A very fine time was had by all, I wish you could have been here. But, really, it's your own fault for living so far away.
It got me thinking though, maybe you might want to throw your OWN party, and invite your friends and then maybe one of them would have a party and then someone they invite would have a party, and we'll start a whole big thing. It'll be great.
If you read this blog you know that we throw a lot of parties. My parents threw parties. My grandparents threw parties that are the stuff of LEGEND. Anyway, I come from a long line of party-throwers. In case you didn't, while you're enjoying the photos of the Hooley at the Tierneys' 2015, I'll share a few quick tips we've learned over the years.
1. Have a Gimmick
People are LOOKING for an excuse to celebrate. You just need to give it to them. As Catholics, we have literally hundreds of built in excuses to party right there in the liturgical calendar. There are the ones folks will be expecting, like, ya know, Christmas and St. Patrick's Day. Or you can go a bit more obscure and have a wine tasting for St. Vincent of Saragossa's feast day on January 22nd or throw an outdoor picnic on May 28th for St. Bernard of Montjoux.
And the liturgical year isn't the ONLY thing, of course, there are plenty of other holidays that need celebrating. You could pick Pie Day, or Pi Day, or Star Wars Day, or Hobbit Day. If you throw it, they will come.
Then, embrace your theme.
People have been coming to our Hooley long enough to know that we encourage all manner of hooliganism, including silly green clothing . . .
2. And Something Memorable
Every year at the Hooley we have singing and carrying on . . .
Party guests (aka hooligans) come ready to sing or play an intrument.
And we're lucky enough to know some folks with REAL talent, who'll share it with us . . .
But it could be another tradition, like a white elephant party, or charades, or a pinata, just something that gets everyone involved.
3. Add Some Whimsy
First comes the theme, then come the decorations. Pinterest is always great for ideas. For a small party around here, it's sometimes as simple as a centerpiece on the table, or a banner I print out on the computer. For birthday parties, I try to create a whole festive atmosphere. For the Hooley, I know I'm going to be able to use most of the decorations again, so I've been trying to add a few new things each year.
4. Don't Give People Too Many Choices
Whether the party is big or small, less is more on choices. In my experience, too many choices is too much work for the hostess, makes for too many leftovers, and just isn't necessary for guests. Even with a hundreds-of-people party like this one, we only had two choices for main dishes: corned beef sandwiches or chicken wings. For sides, there were potatoes, coleslaw, and a salad, plus fruit and jello. And a few snacks. That's it.
5. Let Them Know What Everything Is
I always have little food tags printed up to tell people what each dish is (or a little menu if we're having a sit down dinner). Because most people like to know what it is before they eat it. And some people have food allergies or aversions and can't just take a taste to see what it is.
Food tags are also a way to have a little fun with the theme.
6. Let People Help
This was the treat table. It got MUCH bigger as people brought things to share, and then was completely emptied at the end of the party.
Most people like to come to a party bearing a little something. For a big party, I usually ask people to bring appetizers or desserts, then those things are all taken care of and I don't have to worry about them. For a dinner party, I'll sometimes ask the other families to each bring one thing, like a salad or a vegetable, then I can concentrate on the main course.
And parties for us are a family affair, we ALL help with the cleaning and the baking and the decorating and the errands. Many hands makes for short work and all that.
7. Plan Ahead
I keep a schedule of what needs to happen when, that I've adjusted over the years to know what works for me. I send out invitations a month to a week in advance, depending on how big the party is. I order things that need to be ordered in advance like novelty sodas, and custom decorations, and deli corned beef. I clean the house the weekend before, which is really the only motivation that works for me to actually get my counters cleaned off. I do as much of the shopping as I can early in the week. I do all baking a few days in advance and freeze it, which works just fine. Then the day of the party we do the final cooking, tidying, decorating, and setting up.
8. Keep Good NotesI keep a running note on my iPad (it used to be in a spiral notebook) about exactly how much food we went through and what worked and what didn't at each party. Then, when I go to shop the next year, the first thing I see in the note is: "JUST BUY THIS. DON'T BUY OTHER FOOD OR YOU WILL HAVE TOO MUCH." All in caps like that. Apparently, I have to yell at me to get me to listen.
8. Defense, Defense, Defense
One of the scariest things about throwing a party is worrying about what might happen to your home and belongings if you invite other people (and other people's kids) into your home. What I've learned over many years and many parties, is to get really proactive about keeping messes and accidents from happening (as much as possible, anyway). We put ALL toys into the toy closet and then move the playroom couch in front of it. No access to toy bins means no toy bins get dumped. Kids can still get to our dress up box and the duplo bin, and that's plenty for kids who don't want to play outside. But mostly, I really, really want them to just play outside.
We set up a little craft table in the garage, in case the weather is chilly on the day of the party and we need something to keep kids occupied. On a lovely day like this year, it mostly doesn't get used. But crafts will keep for next year.
9. They Don't Have to Go Home, But They Can't Stay Here
All good things must come to an end, right? Parties, too. About an hour before the party is "over," I stop replenishing food, so that people will just finish up what's on the table. I take empty serving dishes away, and, once the food starts to dwindle, people start to slowly head for the door.
If that didn't work, I guess we'd have to sic Frankie on them.
I found him wandering around the party with what can ONLY be described as a shillelagh. I have no idea how he found it. But it's mine now.
At the end of a party, especially a big one, I've learned to gratefully accept help as it's offered, and I'm lucky enough to have some friends who can always be counted upon to do a a little tidying before they leave. For the Hooley, in particular, we also hire some help, to keep the food table full and the dishes done. That way I get to visit with my guests. But for smaller parties, I can keep up with it myself.
10. Finish What You Start
This technique works for me because I throw the kind of parties that are over and done by nine-thirty . . . but I always try to have the house back in order (at least eighty percent in order anyway) before we go to bed that night. I hate waking up to a mountain of dishes and paper plates and green river bottles covering the surfaces of the house.
And that's that. That's how we do it. Now you can, too.
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