Tuesday, August 11, 2015

How to Raise Good Little Catholics

Something I get asked about quite often is what we're doing with our kids to help to raise them to have an understanding of and an appreciation for our Catholic faith. It's a tough question, but a very important one. Whether our kids are homeschooled, or go to Catholic school, or public school it is OUR responsibility as parents to make sure our kids learn about our faith.



The good news is it's never too early and never too late to start. And there's no better motivation for learning about our faith than having kids who ask us about it. I know about 1000% more about being Catholic than I did before I had kids.

Our Catholic faith is multifaceted, and so rich that you could spend a lifetime studying it and never run out of things to learn. But you've got to start somewhere. Here's where we focus:

1. The Mass

On a scale of importance from one to ten, this is an eleven. Go to Mass. I favor attending Mass as a family, even if it means nursing babies in the pew, and taking screaming one year olds out over and over again. We make it a priority and we make it work.



But I know that doesn't work for every family. If you and your husband need to split up and not bring children to Mass that are below the age of reason, then so be it. But we get to Mass every. single. Sunday. Every. single. holy day of obligation. Even if we're traveling, or we have company, or the kids have sporting events, or we have a ton of stuff to do, or we'd rather sleep in.

We have made a commitment to go to Mass, at least on Sundays and holy days of obligation, more often if we can swing it. ME going to Mass is the most important thing I can do for the faith of my children.

2. The Bible

Being familiar with God's word is also important. We want the stories of the Bible to be a part of the fabric of our family life. My kids should know the heroes of the Old Testament, and the lessons of the New Testament at least as well as they know the marvel superheroes and the wild animal lessons of the Kratt brothers.

But, how to manage it? We're all busy.

I love to use the car for stuff like this. The kids are strapped in, they're a captive audience. Might as well use it for good. And, now, you really REALLY can. TAN books has just come out with a whole program, aimed at homeschooling families, called The Story of the Bible. It's got books (one volume each for the Old and New Testaments), a teacher's guide, an activity book and test book for kids, even a video lecture series . . . the whole shebang. If you're looking for a complete Catholic Bible program, look no further.

But BY FAR my favorite part of the system (available separately) is the Dramatized Audio Books. They are excellent. They are professionally done with voice actors and sound effects and you get to listen to the WHOLE Bible, in a very entertaining way. My kids really like the CDs and ask to listen to them. It's perfect.

We also make a point of having Bibles around the house, accessible to the kids. Since we have a wide range of ages (currently 0-13) around here, we also keep a range of Bibles on hand. (Clicking on the title of the book will take you to Amazon through my Affiliate link. Thanks!)


  1. The Golden Children's Bible: For the youngest kids, we use this for reading Bible stories aloud. The kids like the illustrations, and the stories are complete but not overwhelming.
  2. Early Readers Bible: For kids ready for easy readers, this is a Bible they can read themselves and feel like a big kid. The stories are obviously very simplified, but I think it's good to have around.
  3. The Children's Illustrated Bible: This one is great for kids in middle grades who have six million questions that you don't know the answers to. It's got TONS of descriptive asides about clothing, weapons, customs, geography, food, everything.
  4. The Ignatius Bible: For older kids, we want them to have access to the real thing. That means a GOOD translation of a CATHOLIC Bible. Ideally, a beautiful leather-bound hardback copy so that it feels like something special. This is a good one.
  5. Navarre Study Bible: For kids and grownups who want to get even more in depth, the Navarre Study Bibles are an amazing resource. The Bible is divided up into many individual volumes, and there are TONS of footnotes explaining everything you could ever possibly wonder about.


3. The Sacraments

Catholic kids should have the sacraments. They are powerful tools with both magical and practical aspects. The magic is that they give us the grace we need from God to live faithful Catholic lives, and the practical aspect is that they give us reminders that we can touch and taste and experience of God's love for us.

These days, we baptize our babies just as soon as possible. Our oldest was three months old when he was baptized, but with our most recent few, they've all been baptized within a week or so. No sense putting it off without good reason.

We prepare our kids at home to receive First Confession and First Communion, using these two books:


  1. A Little Book about Confession for Children: I wrote this one, because there really weren't any other books I liked on confession available. It's intended to be used to prepare for first confession, and then to get ready for each subsequent confession after that.
  2. Saint Joseph First Communion Catechism: This is the classic 1960s Baltimore Catechism. It can be intense, when you're used to more modern "God made rainbows and Jesus hugs deer" type religion books. But I think it's great.
We make sure our older kids have regular access to confession and communion once they've made their first.

For older kids, there's the Youcat , and the Catechism of the Catholic Church , along with the Compendium are great resources for every Catholic home.

4. The Rosary and Other Prayers

Daily prayer can be really hard to begin, but once it's a habit, it really does become easier. And, again, there's no better inspiration than kids for getting started. Before I had kids, I could recite the Our Father and the Hail Mary, and that's just about it.

But wanting my kids to learn traditional Catholic prayers has meant I've learned them too.

On an ideal day, in the morning we recite the Morning Offering and the Guardian Angel Prayer, at noon we say the Angelus, in the car or after dinner we say the Rosary, and before bed we say the Our Father and the Act of Contrition.

Not every day is an ideal day, of course. Our minimum is a Morning Offering and the Our Father before bed, but mostly we can do better than that.

We also incorporate some special prayers throughout the year, like the Stations of the Cross during Lent, an Advent Novena, the Litany of Our Lady on Marian Feast Days, and the Seven Sundays of St. Joseph.

We don't have to do much to teach the little ones the prayers, they sort of just pick it up as they go along. But if you're starting with older kids (like I did), you can work on learning them together, one line at a time, a couple of lines per day. And, eventually, you'll find you have quite a repertoire. 

These are the prayer books we use:

  1. Handbook of Prayers: This one is very thorough. It's got all the basic prayers, plus special ones, meditations on the mysteries of the rosary and the stations of the cross, as well as the parts of the mass, the liturgy of the hours, and confession preparation.
  2. My First Prayer Book: The children's prayer book we have appears to be out of print, but this one looks similar. Mostly kids will learn the prayers by reciting them alongside the family, but some kids like to have their own prayer book.

5. Saint's Lives

We've got a LOT of lives of the saints books in this house. A LOT lot. But I think it's important to give my kids examples of faithful Catholics when they are growing up in a culture that has priorities and values that are so far removed from our own.

Again, because we have a wide range of ages, we have a wide range of books. And there are so many available that I'm not even sure how to begin here.

Some of our favorite Catholic picture book authors are: Brian Wildsmith, Tomie dePaola, and Demi, but there are a ton of great ones.


  1. Saint Francis by Brian Wildsmith
  2. The Clown of God by Tomie dePaola
  3. Joan of Arc by Demi 
For older kids there are many lovely compendiums that give kids a quick look at many different saints.


  1. The Children's Book of Saints: Concise one page summaries of fifty well-known saints, along with illustrations and prayers.
  2. Catholic Saints for Children: Thirty short summaries of saints' lives, with illustrations, and prayers.
  3. 57 Stories of Saints : A larger book, in black and white, written in a modern, conversational style, with four to six pages per saint.
For kids ready for chapter books, there are a number of different series' of chapter books featuring a detailed look into the life of one particular saint. The three with which we are most familiar are Saints Lives by Windeatt, the Vision Book Series, and Encounter the Saints.


  1. The Little Flower: The Story of St. Therese of the Child Jesus (Saints Lives)
  2. Father Marquette and the Great Rivers (Vision Book) 
  3. Saint Gianna Beretta Molla: The Gift of Life (Encounter the Saints) 
6. The Liturgical Year

And now that we KNOW about all of these saints, we try to celebrate with them as well. Living the liturgical year in our home a bit has been a wonderful way for our family to connect with the rich history of our church, and to remember how fun and awesome it is to be Catholic.

We started off with having a special meal and a dessert of the child's choosing for his or her baptism day and saint name day, and from there we've also added special dinners for other saints to which our family has a special devotion. We'll usually end up celebrating three to six saints per month, but I was going to make dinner anyway, so it's not too much trouble to make sure I make meatballs for St. Bridget of Sweden's day.

I love Haley and Daniel Stewart's liturgical year cookbook, Feast!: Real Food, Reflections, and Simple Living for the Christian Year :


Other than that, blogs are a great resource for ideas on how to celebrate the liturgical year in your home. Some of my go-tos are:
  1. This blog: here are my liturgical year posts featuring food, desserts, and simple activities
  2. Carrots for Michaelmas: Recipes and ideas for keeping things simple and focused
  3. Catholic Icing: Crafts and activities
  4. Waltzing Matilda: Coloring pages
  5. Catholic Culture: History, tradition, recipes, activities
If you're new to all of this . . . START SMALL AND SIMPLE. Don't try to do it all at once. Do try to find other Catholic families, because being on this journey together with friends makes all the difference.

I hope this helps a bit!

You might also like these posts:

Baby Steps to Living the Liturgical Year as a Family

 

Exactly How to be a Good Catholic


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25 comments:

  1. Lots of great ideas, as always!
    I'm after some easy Assumption ideas (no procession at my parish, despite it being called "Our Lady of the Assumption", which makes me very sad) but I could only find your Annunciation waffles, did I miss the post?

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    1. That is a bummer. We should bring back processions! I don't think I have an Assumption post, but probably we'll do something similar to our Immaculate Conception dinner. That's pretty manageable.

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    2. As a convert, my biggest (only?) complaint is the lack of processions. I think I need to move to Italy or Spain.

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  2. Wow, this post reminded me of a book my mom kept in the house and in her classroom (2nd grade, Catholic school) called Saints for Kids by Kids. I remember reading and rereading it and that I loved it. I can only vouch for it as a child because I haven't seen it in years. Looks like it may be hard to come by online. I will have to track it down before my kid is old enough to read.

    http://www.amazon.ca/Saints-Kids-Robert-Charlebois/dp/0892432233

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  3. I love the Vision Books! Growing up, we had tons of those, laying around the house, and it was awesome. When I was a young girl, we also had animated stories from the Bible, and that was a huge way that I became familiar with the contents of Sacred Scripture. We had an illustrated Bible storybook, too, and that's how I "discovered" Judith. I was flipping through the Bible, and saw an illustration of a woman holding a blood-covered head, and knew that I HAD to read it :)

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  4. These are great thoughts -

    #1 - Yes, Mass is absolutely important. Perfect Mass attendance for us is unfortunately still a work in progress for a variety of factors (apparently working parents can all take off work on Holy Days of Obligation? Must be nice ....) but it's definitely a priority. If you're in the habit of Just Doing It, each individual instance of Just Doing It gets progressively easier to Just Do.

    #3 - I get the fun job of teaching 2nd graders Faith Formation. It's always such a fun challenge to stuff big theological concepts into little minds and watch them work on it. I love helping kids understand the sacraments as well as helping them receive them.

    #5 - Just a quick note if you're not already aware: take a look in your kids' saints books and make sure the kids aren't going to be left with the impression that 99% of the time, one must not be married in order to be a saint. I grew up on lives of the saints books where the dominant stories were all people for whom not getting married was an integral part of their sainthood. For the few married saints, any mention of their spouses or children were carefully airbrushed out of their stories. Add in the story of St. Maria Goretti and I legitimately thought for a few years that sex was not something one should EVER do if one wanted to be a saint. Just a common pitfall of saints stories that can (probably?) be easily avoided.

    #6 - Love the idea of living the liturgical year. I keep meaning to find ways to do that.

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    1. I know it's harder for working folks, but most parishes offer a 7pm Mass on Holy Days of Obligation, and our parish has a 6:30am Mass too.

      There's a book I have you might appreciate called Married Saints and Blesseds Through the Centuries. It's written for grownups, but I found it very inspirational!

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    2. I hear you on Holy Days being a challenge sometimes. I grew up in a very Catholic community where Mass was offered AT least at 6 a.m. (or some super early time), Noon (!), and afternoon/evening, usually with a Vigil the day before. Catholic schools had Mass during the day at school and sometimes even the public schools were off on those days. It's frustrating now to be in a different locale where Noon Masses are not offered and instead we have to work around dinner or evening work schedules. It can be done but it's not nearly as convenient as I am used to.

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    3. Invariably Holy Days are during my crunch times at work so I'm not getting home until 7:30 which is a half hour after the last Mass has started.

      Thanks for the book recommendation! Celibate saints who live their lives in quiet contemplation are fine enough, but they're not too good for practical examples of how to live my very loud, noisy vocation.

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    4. On Holy Days of Obligation, there is one Mass that is at 8am and I will have my kids be late to (public) school so that they can attend church. They are just too tired and cranky to get much out of the 7pm service!

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  5. Thanks for all these amazing suggestions. I am going to look into these books for Christmas. We have the Golden Children's Study bible, but it is too intense for my 5-year-old. Do your kids "get it" at those ages? I have tried that one over and over! Therefore, we use an older version of this: smile.amazon.com/The-Bible-Pictures-Little-Eyes/dp/0802430570/ref=pd_sim_sbs_14_2?ie=UTF8&refRID=0SXYCKQ47QSM3118FQ85 that my grandmother gave me and my brother in 1985. It's written by protestants, however, (ie-grape juice in Cana) but my 5-year-old begs begs begs for me to read it and it helps us initiate good conversations. It's super super simplified, so when we read a story of interest, we often have other books and songs and youtubing to check out to reinforce the story.

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    1. That's a good point, it may be too intense for sensitive little guys. My kids are not. They love it when Judith hacks that evil king's head off. Your kids might not. The easy reader one is much tamer. But if your kids CAN handle it, I don't recommend shielding them from the real stories. They are what they are. We're meant to learn from them.

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  6. Awesome! And I think I'm on the right track :)

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  7. I TOTALLY agree on your point about attending mass. I can't remember who said this, maybe St. Padre Pio or St. John Vianney, that attending mass is THE most well spent time out of anything you could ever do. Even when it sometimes doesn't feel like it I believe it 100%.

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  8. Don't forget Leila Lawler's book, The Little Oratory, for wonderful ideas on renewing the Catholic Culture and living the liturgical year as a family! She blogs at Like Mother, Like Daughter.

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  9. Kendra, my apologies if this comes through twice!

    Just wanted to add one of my 4 year-old's favorite books to this comments section! The illustrations are absolutely beautiful, in the style of icons, AND AND AND the story is guaranteed to open up discussions about the Mass:

    http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-miracle-of-saint-nicholas-gloria-whelan/1002557090

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  10. I love everything about this. We've been eager to get our family (of 4) more involved in our faith and more enthusiastic about Catholicism. It's been tricky because we are living with my parents who are not Catholic, although very welcoming and are even learning with prayers with the kids, and we are not close to the parish we attend. So meeting and having fellowship with other Catholics is something we are hungry for. I am looking into homeschooling and would love to have a Catholic-based syllabus. I'm eager to look into TAN and all the other suggestions. I actually told my husband I wanted to buy ALL THE BOOKS and he said, "I already started making a wish list on Amazon for Christmas". Great minds.

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    1. Sara, look into Mother of Divine Grace curriculum - it is actually what Kendra uses, and what our homeschool co-op (Regina Caeli Academy) uses! God bless you!

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  11. The Story of the Bible Dramatized Audio CDs! Awesome! Thanks for the suggestion. :)

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  12. Dear Kendra.... God bless you!! As an infant Catholic...a quiet teenaged Catholic...an awakened Catholic at age 30 (...oh those sleepy
    years...sigh)...a reformed Catholic by age 40...and a Parish Director of Rel. Ed. by age 50...I am so thankful our Daughter Alyssa led me to your Site...such wisdom-filled posts... May God continue to Bless you and your Family... May He always Guide and Protect you. Thank you...I know you have helped many... may your good works continue. May His Peace be with you! ....and keep hugging and smiling at all those adorable children in your home that they may pass them on!! :) :)

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  13. Awesome post! Thanks for all the links for the different books. Question about the Mass - What's your policy about splitting up if someone (a young child) is sick?

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    1. We definitely split up for Mass if kids are sick!

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  14. We use the divide-and-conquer strategy at Mass. That way there's no lap-hopping. I love that out parish priest is so reverent. He makes sure to give plenty of opportunities to get to Mass on Holy Days. And our parish has an All Saints party, sawdust carpets for Corpus Christi, and to celebrate the Immaculate Conception, there is a candlelight procession through town. The kids put on a special musical program at the Christmas Eve childrens' Mass and they do a play, then on Good Friday the youth group puts together a living stations of the cross. I am so grateful that we were led to a parish that takes such good care of its children.

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  15. Thank you for the great books. I have now added a bunch to our reading list for Santa to bring. We do not attend Mass because the two churches in our area have asked us to stop coming because of our daughters' behavior. One church at age 4 and one at age 5. The next church is a 1.5 hour round trip.

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    1. I'm so sorry Emi! Send me an email catholicallyear@gmail.com if you want to talk more about your situation.

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